“Right now, and in every now-moment, you are either closing or opening. You are either stressfully waiting for something – more money, security, affection – or you are living from your deep heart, opening as the entire moment, and giving what you most deeply desire to give, without waiting.”
~David Deida
Just for a minute, can we please stop frantically trying to control, plan, and delude ourselves into thinking we know what we don’t know? Do you spend your time preparing for every possible outcome and worrying about all the negative consequences that could befall you?
We are so afraid to let go, to just be, to allow the unfolding of this marvelous life without getting in the way. This fear keeps us paralyzed and stuck. And longing for the peace that is possible – if only we would put down all the efforts we make to know.
There is no greater gift you can give yourself than the invitation to enter the world of not knowing.
Why? If you are always going to know what you know now, things will always stay the same. How could they change? And by thinking you know what will happen, you are closing yourself off to the unimaginable – endless peace, unspeakable joy, awe and wonder.
If you cling to what is familiar and comfortable, that is where you will live. Until you decide to take the plunge and let yourself not know.
And consider this: Is the familiar and comfortable working for you? If you are happy, there is nothing to be done. Yay! But if you struggle with people and emotions, if you are frustrated when the world doesn’t go according to your plan, forget what you know and take a bold, brazen step into the unknown.
Getting Unstuck
Here is what not knowing looks like:
- You wake up on a weekend morning without any plans, and you let your day unfold.
- You stop saying the same unproductive statement to your partner and let yourself not know what will happen next.
- You sit and take a breath rather than propelling yourself forward into the next activity.
- You press pause on a habit without knowing what you will do or say next.
- You let your routine fall away so you can be guided by the natural flow of things.
- You let go of, “I have to…” and let yourself rest for a moment.
- You tell yourself the truth about the motivation behind the things you do, and surrender to not knowing.
- You forget who you think you are. Instead of same old, same old, you show up fresh, new, and unencumbered.
Just contemplating any of the examples on this list may make you gasp for air. How could you have no plans for a whole day or stop carrying out familiar routines?
How to Forget What You Know
Center yourself in the wisdom of not knowing:
- You are aligned with the truth of things as they are.
- You open to the possibility of freedom from habits that are limiting and painful.
- You live in reality and not in your mind-constructed version of a false reality.
- You are here, alive, embodied, available.
Then, from this space of your truest desire, simply stop. Have the courage to let life unfold. Put the mind aside and be receptive to what happens next. This is the sacred shift from doing to being.
Maybe you’re afraid you won’t get out of bed all day or you’ll end up like a slug on the couch. Maybe you fear not being able to contain joy or love. Maybe you wonder if your life circumstances will change dramatically.
It is natural to be afraid to let go of the known. Remember that life wants you to live fully and to express yourself in beautiful and amazing ways. But you can’t know what they are.
Be willing to forget everything you know – about yourself, others, and the way you think the world works. Stop, be quiet, and don’t know. You just might discover exactly what you have been looking for your whole life.
What is your experience with the unknown? Does fear keep you stuck? I’d love to hear…
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Debrah says
I’m far enough along that most of the changes of behavior mentioned in the getting unstuck part of your post are things I remember to do …. sometimes. The hardest thing is to not let life take over and cause me to forget about getting ‘unstuck’….most of the time.
The remarks about being afraid and living in fear really resonated with me this morning. I live in a small province, surrounded by ocean and I hate hearing about melting ice caps and disappearing shorelines. I once saw a map that said if things continue as is, my province will disappear. So I wonder/worry if the little house that is my childrens inheritance will have any value by the time I move on. This is the sort of thing that I worry about.
PS I needed to say that just to relieve the pressure of not being able to talk about it. My family thinks I’m nuts being concerned about things like this, but I’ve been a ‘worrier’ from birth. What can I say, that’s me. So thanks for listening. Good thing I’ve learned to meditate and have a different view of life after death or I’d be a real basket case.
Gail Brenner says
Welcome to you, Debrah.
I appreciate your worry, and there may be some validity to it – who knows? The issue here is what are the moments of worrying bringing to your life. Worrying itself is no problem – feel free to worry as much as you like. But you might find that when it is compulsive and takes over, it detracts from happiness. Do you want to be happy? Does your worrying do anything to affect global warming?
Worry is another name for fear. It consists of thoughts and physical sensations, and if you look at it you will see that it doesn’t really help anything. You are worrying about something you can’t control, but you can control what you focus on. Instead of worrying about your home and children, maybe enjoy your life as it is now? I mean really enjoying with no barriers.
I love that you are gaining awareness when patterns that don’t serve you show up. There is so much support for your journey. Sending love…
Clay says
Great post! I can totally relate to what you say, I try to help the people I coach and my relatives to let go of the fear and Live Life Wide, so that they can explore some possibilities they would never even had thought about if they had remained stuck in what they think they know or what they are used to doing
Gail Brenner says
Sounds like you’re doing good work, Clay. Good for you!
Carmelo says
Hello again Gail!
Yes! and Yay … so well said. Your post made me think of how easy it is to think we have to be there, or we must do this, or duty trumps living and peacefulness.
I like to think of the “ego-system” around us that has convinced us that we have to support it with our undying loyalty at the expense of truly being authentic and really allowing “Life” to live through us.
Man oh man, we just can’t really see the truth unless we slow down, let go, and forget everything we “know.”
Such a great post, Gail. 🙂
Gail Brenner says
Hi Carmelo,
All those “I have to’s”…there are all created by our minds. And when we believe them, the ego runs wild, and we are taken for a wild ride. It’s wonderful to know the possibility of stopping all of the madness, losing attention to these thoughts, and allowing ourselves to simply be. Life flows just fine with no ego, no belief systems, no pressures to do or accomplish – a way of living I imagine you are familiar with.
Beautiful to know that all is well always…
Carmelo says
Yes, it is a beautiful thing to know. The “wealth” of what’s unseen completely washes away the external accomplishments that we’ve typically valued.
Gail Brenner says
Love that Carmelo…the wealth of what’s unseen. When attention clings to objects, we overlook the sacred and the vast space of possibility.
Thanks so much for stopping by…
Galen Pearl says
All I could think about as I read this post was, “I hope everyone who got churned up or might still be churned up over the US election should read this post! All the elected politicians should, too!” What a sane approach to governing. Just sayin’….
And then I got to the end and there was a surprise mention of my book! Thank you!!
Gail Brenner says
I’m with you, Galen. Politics is completely laden with belief systems.
Happy to let people know about your wonderful book….
Stacy says
I could be having a wonderful time furthering my already great relationship with my horse. My fear of the unknown is preventing me from taking that step and it has been like this for the last couple of years. I feel like I am not doing what I want to be doing because of fear and lack of trust in myself. I feel like a failure in this aspect. He’s always looking at me like “Come on, get on, let’s go. Don’t worry” But I always have an excuse”My foot is cramping up, I have to get to work, there’s too many people, it’s too hot, I’m too tired, etc.” I hope I can convince myself to let know of all I know or negatively anticipate and just do it.
Gail Brenner says
Welcome to you, Stacy.
What I hear is that you would really love to connect more deeply with your horse. My first question is: do you have the skills to do what you would like to do with him? When we move forward through fears, good to do so with intelligence and not impulsively or with expectations that are unrealistic. So let’s say you have the skills to ride him the way you want to. There is no substitute, ultimately, for “just do it.” Maybe on your next ride do one thing outside your comfort zone or do it for a few minutes at first. Gradually, build up your confidence.
As you do this, you are showing yourself that your fears are unfounded. If the fears come up, which they will do, in that moment, make a decision: behave according to your fears or step outside your comfort zone. Only be concerned about that moment. Then when the fears come up again, make a decision in that moment.
Begin to work intelligently to move forward through the fears. Just this kind of attention gives a message to your mind and your body (and your horse) that you are no longer going to be ruled/trapped by fear.
You are opening yourself to a marvelous journey – both an inner journey and one with your horse. Please feel free to let us know how it goes.
Sandra Pawula says
Gail,
I love the specific list of what it looks like to “not know”. And, yes, some of the items on that list make my knees quake. But, I love the challenge!
Gail Brenner says
I love that you love the challenge of not knowing, Sandra! Your dedication to dig deep and go wide is impressive. Enjoy the amazing journey…
Laurel says
I am an emancipated minor and having grown up in an abusive household, I often try to predict the potential outcomes of circumstances. Reading this really resonated with my situation and this blog in general has been much appreciated. I’m still coping with the aftermath and need these words to deal.
Gail Brenner says
Hi Laurel,
Big hug to you for getting yourself out of a nasty situation. That is inspirational!
The aftermath of your circumstances in terms of emotions and beliefs about the world may continue to show up. But when you work your way through to see things clearly – not through the filter of your past – you cut the ties to the past every time. May you soak up every word of support that helps you deal – and heal.
Oceans of love and support to you…
Laurel says
Thank you so much.. It’s been 5 months since I last saw my parents in court and it feels like it was yesterday. But now I’m just trying to create a better life for myself. I was just wondering, will it just take time for me to be able to stop thinking about it constantly? I feel like I’m still living in a state of hyper vigilance and for the last year I’ve only been able to sleep about four hours a night.. I’ve seen through the comments that you’ve posted that you give really genuinely nice advice and I’m just trying to figure out what it normal to feel and what is not
Gail Brenner says
Hi Laurel,
I’m wondering how old you are, but 5 months is probably a short amount of time compared to the time that you were in the difficult situation. So being free of it is new for you – of course you are still feeling the effects. I’m also wondering about your current situation – are you safe and with people you are comfortable with?
The longer you are safe and out of the situation, the hypervigilance is likely to decrease. There are some strategies you can learn, such as deep breathing and body relaxation, that might help you. When the time is right, you may also need some support to put the past into perspective so you can let go more easily. Don’t hesitate to work with a professional who is familiar with situations such as yours.
What you are feeling is completely normal. It sounds like you have been through a lot, and it is normal for it to take some time for all the effects to move through. Make the space in your experience for healing, and see if you can find the part of you that is always whole and hasn’t been touched by any of it. Bring your attention to the present moment, and soothe yourself. Breathe and be at ease and say calming things to yourself.. Orient your whole life toward peace, and things will start to resolve.
I can feel your sweet spirit – let that shine…
Laurel says
Thank you.. Its indescribable how much it helps to hear those words. I am almost 18 and I live with my friend and her family. I love them so much and I know that they love me too.. they have welcomed me into their world and their lives. But it still feels like theres just such a large barrier between me and who I used to be before the abuse got worse leading up to my emancipation. I feel like my past stands in the way of how I view myself, my friends, my new family, and those who have stood by me through everything though because I have trouble trusting anyone. But I am so fortunate.. while I was still at home I managed to sneak time in with a therapist that saw me for free.. So now I see her about four times a month and I have managed to find a couple adults that I know I could tell anything to or go to if I needed help.
And despite everything that my biological parents did, I am proud to say that I have created this future for myself: I will be attending my first year of college next year for a full ride scholarship in competitive division 1 volleyball – something that my parents told me I would never even be able to accomplish.
Thank you for this blog. I read the articles and just feel less alone in my journey to recovery. Its a long road ahead of me but your articles feel like they’re speaking straight to me. I wish you a happy thanksgiving:)
Gail Brenner says
You have so much going for you, Laurel! You have taken very, very good care of yourself and that will serve you well as you move forward. It’s something to really celebrate.
Be patient and loving with yourself, as you are being. It’s beautiful to hear. Ultimately, imagine your sense of yourself and the world not being defined by the past few years. It may stay with you for some time, and this is completely normal, but as much as you can, live the moments of your life in the now, which is always fresh and new. In each moment, there is a choice, although it doesn’t always feel that way. More and more, you will begin to see that you can make the choice of freedom within yourself.
Big hug to you and so much love….
Laurel says
It’s nice to know that I’m not just crazy to be feeling these emotions! Haha. Thank you. I’ll enjoy reading your articles and look forward to learning your perspective and positive outlook.
Good thoughts sent your way
Elizabeth says
Nice beautiful post that always bless me & changing me.
Gail Brenner says
Thank you, Elizabeth. So glad you stopped by.
Soph says
Your website really helps me.
I’m having a very difficult time, dealing with my past as I’m getting to know my partner and myself in the process. We are dating for 6 months, and I keep getting stuck when I face that I have to accept his past, in this case, the fact that he had an intimate relation with one of his friends, who is constantly with us.
This fact drags me down, I feel impotent, insecure, even knowing that he loves me and that their relationship has nothing to do with now. It stills hurt me to see that he likes her as a friend and that he wants her presence in his life.
My behavior is to try to control all the possible situations and not letting life unfold. This driving things to ways that I do not CONSCIOUSLY want, but I feel so lost that I keep doing them. Sometimes, I don’t even feel like myself while I’m on this “bursts”. I try to dictate, possess, I find that I don’t even want her talking to him, and this is going to others parts of our lives.
I really don’t feel happy with the way I am dealing with this.
Reading this article and your website reminds me to stop, breathe, and try again, knowing that my Ego is talking (even now, when I find it really hard to admit).
Thank you, Gail.
Gail Brenner says
Hi Soph,
Welcome to you and thank you for this honest sharing. Only when we are willing to tell the truth can we change our way of being. I hear you as being very open.
You are dealing with jealousy, but my first question is: is your partner doing everything in his power to make sure you feel secure about his feelings for you? For a situation like this to work for all involved, you must not keep doubting his behavior and his feelings for you. And he must show you in his behavior that he is totally with you. If this is not the case, no wonder you get triggered. So the problem would not be all yours, but an issue that can be discussed between the two of you.
This is a challenging situation for you which means that it requires a lot of your attention. I know the pain of the feelings you describe, and it can be super strong. So your tools to self-soothe and take care of yourself need to be in place. Whenever these feelings arise, yes, stop and breathe. Find your own groundedness, and stay there as much as you can. Tell yourself that you are OK. Find the sense of peace within and don’t rely on others or certain situations for your happiness and well being. So in general focus on you and staying centered, and not on the people around you.
And if you discover that the situation you are in isn’t healthy and doesn’t serve, be willing to change it.
Be very patient and kind with yourself because you will probably need to rinse and repeat many times. But each time is an opportunity for your peace and freedom. Please stay in touch if it helps.
Oceans of love and support….
Realizing self says
Hi Gail,
Whatever I am writing is not relevant to the current post. I am here asking for help to deal with one of my habit- Perfectionism. Initially when I first read your blog I did not understand the awareness or space you were talking about. When you said how to get unstuck from the habits that don’t serve us, I used to assume I don’t have any such bad habits and used to wonder what habits you were talking about With whatever awareness I have gained after reading your posts, I have discovered a habit of mine which puts me in trouble again and again and causing lot of stress in my life.
I aim for perfection in everything I do – whether it is taking care of my 1 yr old daughter, preparing a meal, the way I spend my time, the pace with which I do a task in office, my career growth. I strive for perfection in anything and everything. When I was in college, I wanted to thoroughly study the subject and appear for exams. I skipped the final exams since I felt my preparation was not enough!
I am never satisfied since I feel I did not give my best. I don’t know how I developed this habit but now I want to free myself. I am curious to know what made me a perfectionist. How do I settle down for something less?
Your views will be of great help.
Thank you, Gail.
From India
Gail Brenner says
Hi RS, and thank you so much for your heartfelt question. What a beautiful process you have been through so far! I know it is hard to realize that you have habits that don’t serve, but this is an essential step. If you are blind to what is happening, things stay the same. But if you are curious and open, then infinite possibilities are open to you. So, from my heart to yours, I honor your discovery and willingness to see through this habit.
The first key to no longer being ruled by a habit is to be able to press “pause” in the midst of it. Then you have some choices about what to do next. To get to this point, you need to slow everything down, way down. Take a recent time when the perfectionism was being played out. Study what happened with a laser-like precision from moment-to-moment. What was happening in your body when the tendency first started? What story were you telling yourself? (Hint: the thoughts may be subtle). What belief systems were operating about how you, others, and the world should be? What emotions were you feeling? Begin to become an expert in your moment-to-moment experience when this tendency arises. If you do this with diligence (and I know you will!), you will gain some insights into what triggers you and what need this perfectionism is fulfilling in you. This is the beginning step that can help you to see some options. For example, you can move your attention away from unhelpful stories or challenge beliefs that you take to be true.
As you explore this habit, learn how to be very kind to yourself. Take a look at your self-talk. If it is shaming and negative, see if you can not pay attention to the thoughts. Your goal is not to stop the thoughts, but to shift your attention to the space that the thoughts arise in, where peace lies. Also, see what nourishes and relaxes you – deep breathing, enjoying your daughter, stopping to take in a beautiful sunset, enjoying a half hour of “me” time. You have total permission to step off the wheel of perfectionism and enjoy yourself.
When you let go of perfectionism, you are not settling for less – you are welcoming sanity. It is stressful and pressured to need to be perfect – not good for the body, heart, or soul. When you learn to ease up, there is space to be, to be here in the present, to recognize the magnificent presence that you are, to let your heart open endlessly.
Asking “why” is rarely helpful. It is a trick of the mind that gets your attention diverted away from what is actually useful. It doesn’t matter why this pattern has taken hold. What matters is that you move forward in peace and freedom. That said, sometimes it does help to unwind the story from the past, and from my experience, most people benefit from professional help for this piece.
I honor your desire for an end to this suffering, and I am happy to be a support for you. Oceans of love to you…
Realizing self says
Thanks a ton, Gail. I did not expect such a quick reply. I am hooked to your website and since you had not posted for almost a month I thought you are busy and you would take some time. With so much love and care you reply to each and every comment. Hats off to you!
Yes, with due diligence I will study the habits because I am enjoying this journey. I am enjoying the new learning. I am enjoying the new beginning. AFlourishingLife has triggered this journey 🙂
Will keep you posted as I continue to apply your guidance. Heartfelt thanks to the love and support you give. It makes a difference.
Gail Brenner says
Yes, RS, not writing much, but I am here!
Love your openness as your journey flows…
Bahar says
Gail and all, happy new year,
Gail, your point is great for the one who is afraid of ” let it go” and live in the moment.I may think of the one who often, if not always let it go.
I am talking about my own experience.
Either the changing environment or the personality or childhood circumstances or genes or combination of all or some have made me living in moment.
However, I think this way of acting has stopped me from being enough worry for knowing what I want or if I have serious goals. I am not totaly certain do I use the life gifts for delivering value to our societies or not.
On the other hand I feel that I am pushed to compete, to go on to be someone important and there I want to resist and not to go with waves of the industrialized society but live in the moment.
I haven’t been able t solve this myself and it keeps me thinking.
All the best,
Bahar
Gail Brenner says
Welcome to you, Bahar.
You are asking a very important question: does letting go mean that you lose all ambition or don’t care about goals?
As paradoxical as it may sound, you can live in the moment, but still set goals. Even when you have a goal, your progress toward that goal takes place in the present. There is great wisdom in living a life that is interesting, fulfilling, and meets all of your basic needs. For most of us, to do that, means having a job and supporting our families. The joy in living comes in the moment. It’s preferable not to get bogged down by goals, but hold them lightly as you enjoy your life unfolding in the now.
As you say, there is a lot of pressure from society to be successful. See if you can not let that affect you so much. Bring your attention inside and find the inner wisdom and intelligence that is there in all of us. See what it guides you to do. Let your creativity express itself fully, and don’t be afraid to go against society’s messages. In the end, you walk your own path anyway.
Be guided by wisdom, love, creativity, in a space where anything is possible. Enjoy accomplishing things and feeling successful, if that is your path. Love includes everyone, so you will naturally be responsible and caring while you find your truest expression in the world.
I love that you are wrestling with this question. Ultimately, it can’t be figured out with the mind. Completely relax into now, and all that you need to know will be revealed.
Love to you…
Bahar says
Thank you Gail for the reply. I will think of what you suggested.
All the best
Bahar
Nor Aziah says
Hi Gail,
I used to be a person who like to have a plan for most of the things in my life; from vacation to daily task and what to wear. Everything is planned days earlier. Although it makes me comfortable, but oftentimes I get frustrated when things does not happen as planned especially when I set time for each task.
As I get older I learn to get easy with things. I still plan, but roughly. I don’t set time for each task to be done. I just let it be. The important thing is to have an objective or the right and clear intention. When you have a clear and strong intention, you are able to adapt and adjust your action no matter what turns up. Just trust yourself and keep your burning desire guides you.
Gail Brenner says
Hi Nor,
Thank you for your words of wisdom. We learn from experience that old ways don’t work – too much planning then frustration when life brings us something different from the plan. That is how suffering is our teacher.
I feel the ease in how things are for you now. Having a guiding intention helps, such as peace or happiness or ease. Then the question is: what can I choose in this moment to be peaceful or happy? Then how to adapt becomes obvious. What a blessed life!
Patrick Wolfe says
I like this article and agree with much of it, but when you write, “Remember that life wants you to live fully and to express yourself in beautiful and amazing ways. But you can’t know what they are”, my response (thinking of my own devotions) is: Can’t we now?” Of course, if we do know, or least have a strong conviction much of the time that we know, there is still the challenge of pursuing those expressions in a balanced way that may very well include letting go, forgetting and being guided. I very much believe in being a disciple to what I know, which, in my case, is hardly anything at all.
Gail Brenner says
I appreciate your point, Patrick. Eventually, we do know how life wants to express itself through us. And we know this in every moment. Like right now, life wants me to breathe and write and type and see. Life can’t help but express itself and we are the happy recipients! But this is not under our control. It’s not something we can plan for or figure out. When we do get some direction, yes, taking steps such as planning and action take place in a balanced way, without stress or fear.
If you are a disciple to what you know, and you hardly know anything, I imagine you are quite happy.
van says
Thanks for the inspiring article.. I am currently in a relationship with someone in the past 3 months and I can tell that she is really amazing. I know that she currently have a fiancee, and at our first conversation she told me that she had a reason of doing this. I mean the engagement. We are friends at that moment and she wants to keep that as a secret as she doesnt really trust me yet. So I keep on pursuing my relationship with her (as I thought maybe it’s not her will to engage wt that guy or she doesnt love her). Until one day, she told me she’s gonna get married by this month. . She apologized for telling me kinda late, because she waited for me until I finishd my exams. I was angry at first, but I cool down, thinking maybe it wasn’t her will. She reassured me that she wil tell me everything when the time is right. .and so I had wait, and wait. .2 weeks had gone. .and evrytme we try to discuss or talk, things happened and I stil had not received any explanation. Day by day, she is getting busier and I have to ask what feelings she had for me. And yes, she loves me. So that statement gives me the courage to stil be waiting for the explanation. .but eventually my patience wore off, and I asked her if her fiancee loves her. She answrd yes. And I ask, do u love him too? She answrd yes and that really pissed me off. I accussed her why she kept on delaying the explanation, and she answred, it all need time to explain to me. The prob is, I don’t knw what to do. . I don’t know if forgetting things that I know wil help me. . The wedding, the fact that she loves her fiancee too. .and the mystery of the explanation. I don’t knw whether to let her go or to dig deeper to her relationship. Because the main reason at first why I try to date her because I thought she don’t love her guy. Maybe her family force her to get married. That was my original thinking. But now, I don’t knw what to do. .i am stil really in love with her, and I felt not giving up her yet. Mayb by not giving up, maybe our love wil make it through
Gail Brenner says
Welcome to you, Van. Oh, haven’t we all been there! I feel for you.
From my perspective, the issue is not about what to do about the relationship. It is about your happiness, and you can make the choice in any moment the brings you peace, well-being, and happiness. From this place, either the relationship will work or it won’t (actually, it sounds like it won’t survive).
Surround yourself with open, honest, loving people that support you, and choose happiness in the moment. No one, including this woman, can make you happy. That is your sacred responsibility.
Pat says
Love this post. It brought giggles as I thought of the freedom this would unfold. Having everyone prepare their own meals without me having to do when I truly just want to be. Most of all this, for me, is truly the way to “Open to Life”.
I promise to try this but then again isn’t that contradictory, the planning I mean ?
Thanks for the post and all the comments and great Joy for all those who venture.
Gail Brenner says
Hi Pat,
There is no problem with intelligent planning – just don’t be attached to your plans. Yes, experiment with no mind, and see what happens!
Pat says
This seems to be one good way to open to life.
Thanks for the post and comments and great Joy for those of us yet to venture.
Brian says
Thank you for this. I hope you know that you are a remarkable and intelligent woman.
Love,
Brian
Gail Brenner says
Very sweet, Brian. Thank you so much.
Anonymous says
I have a really crappy life … I want to forget all about it and start a new one away from all the crap and shit I’m having in my life now … but I don’t know how …
Gail Brenner says
Welcome to you, Anonymous.
Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s about tossing your whole life away. But it is about taking each moment of the one you have and start cleaning it up. What isn’t working for you. Don’t get overwhelmed by your long list. Just take each item, each person, each situation and begin to align yourself with your own truth.
The phrase I like in situations like this is to stay “close to the bone.” You may be confused about what to do, but if you bring your attention right into this moment, there is an intelligence here that can guide you. Changes take place one at a time, so stay close to your truth right now and follow it – just right now.
There’s a life worth living. Right now it’s your job to take away what doesn’t serve so you can find that life.