“Do you want to know what my secret is? You see, I don’t mind what happens.”
It’s so simple, isn’t it? “I don’t mind what happens.” It is a way of being that deeply accepts, doesn’t resist, and offers the possibility of profound peace.
If you truly don’t mind what happens, then anything can occur and nothing disturbs. It is the end of emotional drama, stress, and all kinds of suffering.
The Pain of a Rigid Mind
But most of us frequently feel stuck,and we suffer because of it. We hold on tightly to familiar ways of thinking about ourselves, relationships, other people, and situations. And as we move through our lives with these patterns firmly in place, things matter, and we hit edges everywhere that make us react.
He shouldn’t have done that…That shouldn’t have happened to me…I can’t seem to get what I want out of life…I’m a failure, an imposter, inadequate, scared of what might happen. Each of these thought patterns causes an emotional reaction that contributes to the cycle of discontent.
Couldn’t you write a manual on how to be stuck? I know I could:
- Expect things to be a certain way.
- Identify yourself as insufficient or incapable.
- Continue seeing yourself as a victim.
- Think and feel the same things you’ve always thought and felt.
- Say the same things you’ve always said.
- Do the same things you’ve always done.
In other words, be rigid. Let yourself be confined by the past. Don’t consider any fresh perspectives or new possibilities. Stay in the same old, same old.
The Possibility of Being Flexible
But…what if you considered being flexible. If you’re tired of feeling rigid and stuck, contemplate flexibility. It’s a great word, inviting you to be malleable, bendable, stretchy, spacious. It gets you out of the rut of habitual thinking.
Being flexible breathes new life into those places that are so rigid you’re barely alive when you are stuck in them. It’s like a verdant oasis when you are parched and dying of thirst.
Practically speaking, flexibility offers a new way of being that brings a fresh, undistorted perspective to old habits. Almost like a miracle, familiar ways of behaving don’t feel right anymore, fresh thoughts appear, new conversations happen.
How to be flexible?
If it’s out of your comfort zone, take your time to feel into it.
Allow yourself to feel the possibility of being flexible in your body. I don’t mean the kind of flexibility where you can do a split or put your foot behind your head.
But I do mean flexible in every cell of your body.
When you look closely, you will find that rigid habits have a strong physical component. You feel tense, contracted, and closed down, especially in your chest or belly.
Now try this: offer the gift of presence to your muscles and tendons, to each of your cells. Welcome openness and flexibility into every physical sensation.
Find the places that are stuck – and those that aren’t, and offer the simple invitation to every cell to open and relax. Give them time to release from their contracted state. Practice this exercise for a few minutes a couple of times a day. Isn’t this what your body has been craving all along?
Now it is primed for new ways of being.
If you are stuck in habits, your thought processes are rigid. In the spirit of flexibility, let your mind open, and discover new potential you didn’t even know was there.
Recognize the power of conditioned thoughts that are so familiar to you. Now, imagine them breaking apart and falling to pieces to reveal space that is free of habit. They aren’t serving you anyway, so let them collapse in a heap – just for a moment.
Where you held a world view about how things are supposed to be, you find that you are free.
Where you convinced yourself that you were inadequate and undeserving, you are open to the freshness of truth.
Where you were stuck, you can now wonder, question, and not know.
There is no limit to how flexible the mind can be, beyond anything you could imagine. So let it open…more and more…infinitely…to discover its unconditioned state – transparent, radiant, completely alive.
Flexible mind, infinite mind, boundlessly peaceful mind.
What habits are asking for flexibility? What is your experience of flexible mind? I’d love to hear…