“Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.”
I know what it’s like to live a life driven by emotion, and believe me, it won’t make you happy. Someone shows up late, and you are triggered by fear and anger. You get some negative feedback, and you sulk in sadness. You live in anxiety, chewing on thoughts about what will happen next and if it will all be okay.
It’s like you’re a yo-yo on a string, with your happiness tied to all the circumstances in your life that you cannot control. If you ask me, this is no way to live.
Guided by Emotions
Until you become fully aware of your inner experiences, emotions will rule. Guaranteed. Emotions are highly conditioned, meaning that they are automatic reactions that arise in you in response to things that happen. A memory comes to mind? You don’t need to make yourself feel sad, you just do, and your whole day may be affected.
And it’s not only about how you feel.
If you make decisions based on emotions, you are unlikely to be happy and fulfilled. You feel empty and choose the first potential partner who comes along, even though the red flags are flying everywhere. Because you are afraid, you don’t reach out to engage fully in the world. Your resentment keeps your heart closed and your relationships stuck year after year.
I didn’t think so. Maybe it’s time to shine the spotlight on emotions. Once you no longer let them guide you, you uncover the natural intelligence that flows in you and realize that living in calm and clarity is absolutely possible. Things simplify tremendously as you stop resisting life.
And here’s the amazing truth. You don’t need to get rid of any emotions or change them into happier ones. That takes way too much effort.
Instead, become aware of the feelings that take you over because once you see how feelings have been driving you, you can put them aside. Really, it’s possible. Then you have the space to be reasonable, flexible, and smart about how you live.
It’s a practical and relaxed way of being that ends the drama of chaos and confusion.
Shining the Spotlight
Your starting point is anything that you call a problem. An unresolved relationship from the past, work stress, an ongoing situation that frustrates you. Now,
Connect with the most intelligent part of you, the part that wants sanity and knows that peace is possible.
From there, shine the spotlight on the emotion that is fueling the problem. Simply recognize whatever you are feeling and notice the gap between you and the feeling.
Step back to take a look at the big picture so you can see how the emotion isn’t serving you. Is it fear or anger? Sadness or jealousy? Is it helping or hurting? Ask honest questions to realize that it limits you and masks your true beauty that is aching to be seen.
Now, consider bundling up the feeling and putting it aside. Why? Clarity tells you that it doesn’t serve, it’s not reasonable, and it doesn’t bring you happiness. Without any judgment or struggle, just for a moment, take the feeling out of your way. Put it on a shelf somewhere – you can always bring it back later.
Step forth unencumbered, free. Experience how your body feels without the weight of the feeling. See how open your mind can be when it is no longer entangled in the web of emotion.
Let’s return to the problem you started with. Now that emotions are out of the picture, how do things look different? What new choices come to mind? How does your body feel?
Even if this process seems difficult for you, imagine what it would be like to be free of feelings. Take any problem at any time. Look for the emotion in it, then put it aside. Immediately, you experience clarity, openness, and a fresh perspective.
Difficult feelings can be like old friends who have overstayed their welcome. You are used to them being around, but you don’t really enjoy their company.
Know this, in your heart of hearts: Feelings are temporary, and you can let them go. They don’t have to guide and define you. Moment after moment, you can find the place in you that is free of emotion. And when you do, live there happily with clarity, intelligence, and love.
Are you stuck in emotions? Can you put them aside? I’d love to hear…