“When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result.”
If you’re like most people, there is more fear driving your behavior than you could ever imagine. Fear is behind just about every pattern you play out that doesn’t serve you. It’s the reason you get stuck, the subtle agitation you feel that keeps ... Read entire article
“You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.”
It descends like a cloud before you know it. Your mind turns to mush. You stare into space. Your focus goes out the window. Your body feels like a heavy sack. And there ... Read entire article
“What you are looking for is within you
Fall silent a moment and contemplate what that means…
You lack nothing.”
I know, it’s hard sometimes. Things get you down, and you can’t seem to find your way out. Life seems blah, and you’re thinking there’s got to be a better way.
Well, there is. And one way to access it is to “act as if.” Whatever you want for yourself, you act ... Read entire article
“The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
Meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.”
from The Guest House, by Rumi
It came over me like a whisper, then I realized I was afraid. I felt that familiar flutter everywhere in my body, and I was uncomfortable. I watched the fear intently as it crawled into my mind, begging my thoughts to start spinning: “What is ... Read entire article
yes is a world
& in this world of
Not accepting things as they are is a fight against reality. It’s kind of crazy, really. Say that someone said something hurtful to you. You can wish they hadn’t said it forever, but the fact remains the same—they said what they said.
Say you did something you regret. You can wish you hadn’t done it, which could keep you ... Read entire article
“Shame is a soul eating emotion.”
“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.”
Shame. It’s such an uncomfortable feeling. So uncomfortable that you may not even want to read this post. You think that if you leave it hidden in the shadows, outside of conscious awareness, maybe, just maybe, you can pretend it’s not there.
But it is. And for some of us, it’s dug in deep.
If shame ... Read entire article
“Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever.”
Awakening to your true nature means that you realize the absolute truth about yourself. You know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you are not the limited, separate person who lacks, strives, needs, and defends.
You realize ... Read entire article
I love being interviewed. So I was happy to participate when longtime reader, Lexie Oneca, invited me to respond to some questions. Lexie blogs at ChicagoNow, where this interview was originally published. And if you have any more questions for me, please feel free to share in the comments.
20 Questions — Soul-Style
1. Who are you?
I’m assuming you mean this in the conventional sense. I’m Gail Brenner, PhD, psychologist, blogger, ... Read entire article
“The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.”
Note: Next live meeting with me is on June 3. It’s a safe and supportive group of beautiful truth lovers. For more information, please see the Events page.
Are you feeling dull, bored, and uninterested? Then you’re being asked to connect with everyday wonder. ... Read entire article
“How can I be still? By flowing with the stream.”
“To me every hour of the light and dark is a miracle. Every cubic inch of space is a miracle.”
Whatever your preferences, needs, desires, or expectations, life unfolds with such grace. Have you noticed?
We have an amazing word to describe it—serendipity, being pleasantly surprised by events that occur, seemingly by chance. They just happen.
I’ve been the recipient ... Read entire article