What’s Behind Your Mask of Fear?

behind_mask_fear“Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions.” ~Hafiz

Get out the pumpkins. Bring on the ghosts. It’s Halloween, and we’re going to investigate the spooky nature of fear.


Actually, the fear that you take so seriously in your life is just like a costume you put on. When you’re dressed as a dragon, are you really a dragon? No. You take off ... Read entire article

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How and Why to Get Familiar with Fear

familiar_with_fear“Happiness is simply to allow everything to be exactly as it is from moment to moment.”

~Rupert Spira

In the last post, we saw that fear is at the root of your conditioned habits. We get so caught up in playing out these habits, that we don’t stop to recognize that fear is what underlies them.

Take people pleasing as an example. Why do you need to please ... Read entire article

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Are Hidden Fears Suppressing Your Happiness?

hidden_fears“When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result.” ~Byron Katie

If you’re like most people, there is more fear driving your behavior than you could ever imagine. Fear is behind just about every pattern you play out that doesn’t serve you. It’s the reason you get stuck, the subtle agitation you feel that keeps ... Read entire article

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Finding the Gift in Boredom

bored_alive“You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.” ~Paulo Coelho

It descends like a cloud before you know it. Your mind turns to mush. You stare into space. Your focus goes out the window. Your body feels like a heavy sack. And there ... Read entire article

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A Simple Experiment with Profound Results

act_as_if“What you are looking for is within you Fall silent a moment and contemplate what that means… You lack nothing.” ~Prem Rawat

I know, it’s hard sometimes. Things get you down, and you can’t seem to find your way out. Life seems blah, and you’re thinking there’s got to be a better way.

Well, there is. And one way to access it is to “act as if.” Whatever you want for yourself, you act ... Read entire article

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The Only Choice, the Sacred Choice

sacred_choice“The dark thought, the shame, the malice. Meet them at the door laughing and invite them in. Be grateful for whatever comes.” from The Guest House, by Rumi

It came over me like a whisper, then I realized I was afraid. I felt that familiar flutter everywhere in my body, and I was uncomfortable. I watched the fear intently as it crawled into my mind, begging my thoughts to start spinning: “What is ... Read entire article

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The Beauty and Ease of Accepting Things as They Are

acceptingyes is a world & in this world of yes live (skillfully curled) all worlds ~e.e. Cummings

Not accepting things as they are is a fight against reality. It’s kind of crazy, really. Say that someone said something hurtful to you. You can wish they hadn’t said it forever, but the fact remains the same—they said what they said.

Say you did something you regret. You can wish you hadn’t done it, which could keep you ... Read entire article

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10 Life-Changing Ways to Move Through Shame

shame“Shame is a soul eating emotion.” ~C.G. Jung

“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.” ~Brené Brown

Shame. It’s such an uncomfortable feeling. So uncomfortable that you may not even want to read this post. You think that if you leave it hidden in the shadows, outside of conscious awareness, maybe, just maybe, you can pretend it’s not there.

But it is. And for some of us, it’s dug in deep.

If shame ... Read entire article

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5 Welcoming Ways to the Peace You Long For

welcoming-ways“Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever.” ~Jack Kerouac

Awakening to your true nature means that you realize the absolute truth about yourself. You know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you are not the limited, separate person who lacks, strives, needs, and defends.

You realize ... Read entire article

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A Lovely Interview—Soul-Style

soul-styleI love being interviewed. So I was happy to participate when longtime reader, Lexie Oneca, invited me to respond to some questions. Lexie blogs at ChicagoNow, where this interview was originally published. And if you have any more questions for me, please feel free to share in the comments.

Love, Gail

20 Questions — Soul-Style

1. Who are you?

I’m assuming you mean this in the conventional sense. I’m Gail Brenner, PhD, psychologist, blogger, ... Read entire article Related Posts with Thumbnails

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