“The Master does his job
and then stops.
He understands that the universe
is forever out of control,
and that trying to dominate events
goes against the current of the Tao.”
~Tao Te Ching by Lao-Tzu
If you’re living a human life, then you will experience change and loss. Maybe you’ll be diagnosed with an illness and experience physical pain and difficulty with daily functioning. Or you’ll break your leg and lose your ability to walk for several weeks.
Aging will creep up on you with changes in how you look, move, think, and feel in your body. People close to you will die.
In the course of life, we lose things we rely on and even take for granted—people, physical capabilities, our health, and eventually our vitality.
There’s a basic truth about reality…if it comes, it goes. There’s a free flow of experience in form that arises within the field of conscious awareness, and all of it, ALL of it, is temporary. This means that loss is an essential part of the human experience…and we feel it intensely when we are attached to forms.
Without even realizing it, we define ourselves by the most common experiences in life—relationships with our partner and children, our roles, our health, the choice to move about freely, and our dependence on the most basic abilities to see, hear, walk, and breathe.
We think things will last forever as they are…until our expectations are disrupted by the mystery of life showing itself…
Feeling into the reality of change and loss, we realize where we’re attached. Are you attached to having control? Do you cling to things staying the same? Are you petrified when change is on the horizon?
Then you are being invited into an exploration of the nature of of reality. And what you discover is the temporary appearance of forms arising in the ever-present boundless field of alive awareness.
Here you open to the possibility of experiencing the unfolding of life not by having your happiness dependent on forms remaining the same, but by being the spaciousness in which they come and go. This is where freedom lies.
You may grieve when your hair starts turning gray or your children leave home or you can’t see and hug your loved ones, but you also know the wisdom of resting as unchanging aware presence, letting the objects and situations of everyday life come and go of their own accord. Then you’re in harmony with things as they are.
Letting go of stories that make us desperately grasp what we want, we settle into the fact that we have little control over what happens. Miraculously, we’re now available to be fully present with what’s here.
No longer veiled by the fear of loss, we’re completely fresh in the moment, free to notice, feel, appreciate, be intimate, and love. Our hearts are touched over and over as we celebrate what is, just as it is, with abandon. We stay in harmony even with our shared grieving. So authentic…and tender…
Know this: what comes, goes. You have what you have for the time that you have it. Reflect deeply on this truth, and follow the mystery that life offers you…