“Everything that kindness touches relaxes into its true nature.”
~ Pamela Wilson
Are you stuck on needing to be be in control? You’re definitely not alone.
As humans, our brains are constantly finding problems with ourselves that need to be solved. By instinct, we notice what we think is wrong—then get busy trying to change, control, or fix it.
- If you worry too much, you plan for every possible outcome.
- If you don’t like the way you’re feeling, you try to move on and ignore the pain.
- If you feel badly about yourself, you try to make everything perfect.
- If you don’t like how someone else makes you feel, you do everything you can to change them.
All of these efforts seem to make sense. If you don’t like the way things are, then why not make it better or different?
However…seeing the world in terms of problems and solutions is fundamentally flawed, and here’s why.
- It reinforces the belief that right now is not okay. It makes us feel like we’re lacking, inadequate, and missing what we need to be happy.
- It makes us believe that something is wrong with this moment that needs to be fixed or changed.
- And it makes us hope for happiness at some future time, which keeps us searching endlessly to fix ourselves.
This belief that there’s something wrong with our present moment experience is good for business. People spend literally billions of dollars a year on books, retreats, workshops, and programs to learn to fix what we’ve been led to believe is broken about ourselves.
But here’s the amazing news: there is a better way, a radical way, and it’s available to you for free, right now…and in every moment.
Right now you can give up all the effort to change, control, and eliminate your troublesome thoughts and feelings. You don’t have to wait one more second hoping you’ll eventually find your way to peace and happiness.
What you can do is turn toward yourself and form a kind and friendly relationship with your inner experience. Here’s where you’ll discover you’ve never been broken.
Think of it like this. Whatever is arising in you—mental resistances, difficult emotions, energy in your body—these aren’t problems. They’re like friends knocking on your door that want to come in for a visit. So the question for you is: how do you meet them?
Do you ignore them hoping they will go away? Do you reject them and ask for better friends instead?
I don’t know about you, but for me, that approach hurts. It feels like I’m turning away from my humanity, rejecting the tender and young parts of my experience that want to come to conscious awareness.
It creates an inner war, a divided sense of self, and a sustained feeling of anxiety that something isn’t right.
Do you feel stuck in a recurring pattern? Then there’s some part of your inner experience that’s waiting for your love and care.
Welcome these delicate parts that arise in you—grieving, fear, pain, tension in the body. Give them the space to breathe and be. Let them just be here, invited into loving awareness…welcomed home endlessly…
When we turn toward ourselves, we get to be infinitely kind with all that arises…and we start to feel whole. It’s what we’ve always wanted.
See how there’s nothing to fix, control, or change? Simply be here, relaxing as the welcoming presence for whatever arises, saying a warmhearted “hello” to all of it.
Now there’s space for the free flow of whatever comes…and there’s harmony, peace, and the end of inner conflict. No longer caught in efforts to change and improve, you’re here…available, inspired, present, and free…