“Embracing our humanness is what actually delivers us beyond attachment and non-attachment and into the vastness of true freedom, love, and compassion.”
Here are some people I’ve come across recently.
- A man whose light shines so brightly. He wants to end a relationship that is no longer joyful, but feels he doesn’t deserve to get what he wants.
- Two competent professional women who are overcommitted, hyper-responsible, unable to set boundaries, and burned out.
- A man so intent on “making it big,” that he squanders his family’s savings and ends up in debt with his wife on the verge of leaving him.
- An amazing young woman, happy and content in a long relationship with her boyfriend who treats her like gold. Her mother judges them because he doesn’t fit her idea of a suitable partner, driving a wedge in her relationship with her daughter.
These are normal scenarios, you might say. This is how life is. Most likely, we all know people who are struggling with everyday situations such as these. Maybe you are one of them.
But when I feel into each of these circumstances, my heart aches. Doesn’t yours?
Well, I am here to tell you that what we call normal is insane. What happens when we cling to beliefs about ourselves, other people, and the world that dictate how things should be? What happens when we resist fear, when we need to be right? We bring stress and unhappiness to our own lives and the lives of those around us.
Can we please stop doing this?
There is a cure for this disease of normal insanity. It is called willingness, longing for truth, courageous honesty.
And the treatment is investigation, taking a curious and penetrating look at your beliefs and fears to see what is actually true. What brings stress? What serves? What is a belief, a feeling?
Don’t investigate your inner experience to save the world. Don’t worry about taking care of anyone else.
This is the cosmic joke: The only one to pay attention to is you. Place your own happiness and peace foremost in your mind. Do it for you and your personal well-being. Embrace your human suffering completely. Get to know it intimately. Break it down to see what it is really made of.
You will see that it is a gateway to realizing the totality of existence, love in overflowing abundance, laser-like wisdom that sees things clearly. Beliefs collapse like a house of cards. Fear is experienced as just physical sensations. And the pain of separation melts into effortless compassion and generosity.
Next time you feel the momentum to carry out an old habit, stop, feel the intensity of the urge, breathe, and let sanity guide you. Every single time. Abandon the big picture, and bring your attention to your moment-by-moment existence. Here is where the juice is, the traps and the possibility for freedom from them.
Normal insanity is not a problem – it is an opportunity. Do you feel separated, righteous, powerless? These are your signals to pause. Study your experience, receive yourself with oceans of compassion, and make the peaceful choice.
How about you…Are you ready to choose sanity? What attachments get in your way? I’d love to hear…