Real love is the essence of everything. In truth, everything and every moment is infused with it endlessly, if we’re open to seeing it.
Love has so many beautiful faces as it’s commonly expressed in the world: kindness, generosity, compassion, celebration, sharing joy…the list goes on. When our hearts are open and undefended, we taste the true heart that sees everything as one, the same, the infinite source of all.
From this perspective, everywhere we look we see ourselves. We are love itself.
But love isn’t always soft and sentimental. Grounding ourselves in true love where nothing is separate, we are fearless and whole.
Our actions aren’t based on any ideas about how we think we should act. Rather, they emerge from clarity as fresh responses that are perfectly appropriate to the moment.
They are aren’t thought out and habitual; they are free and spontaneous. And often surprising.
Consider these five less common, but enormously powerful ways to express love. Love may be more a part of your experience than you ever thought.
The end of suffering comes when we say a continual Yes! to life, to things as they are. And that includes your inner knowing about situations that arise in your life. Yes doesn’t mean you always do, give, and support. It means that you see the big picture as well as all the details in it. Then the most loving action happens.
Maybe you aren’t comfortable around a friend who gossips. Or you don’t like how someone treats you. Maybe you don’t want to do what someone is asking of you. Or you feel taken advantage of.
Saying yes is opening to all aspects of what happens, including your own reactions. And from this openness, a wise “no” may be the clearest and most loving response.
Pleasing others is not always loving. If it comes from a generous heart, and others are happy, then you are freely giving what you already know to be true. There is nothing for you to get.
But when fear, need, guilt, or obligation are the drivers, tell the truth about these reactions until you see them with clarity. Then, fearlessly and kindly, just say “no.”
Our minds are often filled with endless chatter that affects how we show up in our daily lives. Do you fully pay attention? Do you babble on to fill up space? Are you afraid to just be quiet?
The root of these behaviors is distraction and unawareness. They suck the life out of life and block your appreciation of the living breathing reality of now.
Stop and ask, “How do I want to be in this moment?” You may find that the simplicity of silence is the most natural and aligned choice you could make.
Fear-based action cannot possibly be an expression of love. Love is infinite, overflowing with potential, all-encompassing, and fearless. This is far from the picture that fear presents.
I can tell you from my own experience that you can put fear aside and let fearlessness guide you. There came a time when I just wasn’t willing to give fear the authority it was trying to have. I didn’t care what the results were or how others would evaluate me. I just had to stop behaving according to the limits of fear.
The bound up, fearful me was finally put to rest, and what was revealed was life, so fresh and alive, love in motion!
A friend put it another way. When fear visited, she said, “I’m not available to that.” Done. End of story.
So no more complaining about what you could be doing if you weren’t afraid, OK? Take Nike’s advice: just do it.
Moving Toward Pain
It’s a survival instinct of the human form to move away from pain. But if you want to be deeply at peace, you must see how you fight your own experience.
Ignoring painful feelings keeps pesky habits locked into place. And rejecting feelings is rejecting a part of the preciousness that is you.
Open your heart to all of your experience. Every nuance of feeling, every tender contraction in the shadows of your body. Whatever comes, receive it with the deepest acceptance.
Be like the ocean that provides a home to all the life in it. Be a welcoming, loving host for everything that knocks on your door.
If you stand in the belief that, “I know,” then you will forget to listen. You think you’ve got it all figured out, while you are missing out on the clarity that comes by simply listening.
Truth speaks in a subtle whisper. It has nothing to do with fear and need and everything to do with love. It asks you to not know, to surrender control, and to receive.
In the moments of deep listening, you are empty and available, open to whatever appears. Can you open your heart and listen from the space of love?
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Love is fierce, soft, tender, sharp, and everything in between. It doesn’t look any given way—it all depends on what arises in the freshness of the moment.
When conditioned beliefs have fallen away, all that remains is love. Live here. Clear your mind, and let yourself be surprised by how love moves.
What About You?
How is love expressed through you? How is it blocked? I’d love to hear…